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01.24.07 (2:22 pm) [edit] Life has been so hard latly.Im not exactly sure what to do about alot of things.So in order to explain some things i have to tell some things.
One of my best friends is in alot of trouble.Hes smoking...again and hes just into alot of bad things.Im not sure what to do about it.Hes a christian and everything but he just has alot of bad things in his life and he wants to be closer to god but hes to caught up on worldy things.Ive tried helping him and talking to him about everything but it doesnt seem to help.Im starting to get the feeling that not matter what im say to him and no matter what i do i cant do anything about it and hes just gonna have to change on his own.can i change it???? what should i tell him????
That is the main reason why I am so confused about life and everything.I dont understand how someone can have so much bad stuff in their life and not even care.I tried soo hard to help him to change his life around in a good way but its not changing at all.Im tired of worrying about him and im tired of everybody being rude to me about it.He is my bestfriend and i dont want to lose him because of cancer from smoking or some other stupid reason.So basically I have no idea what to say,what to do,what to think,or what to feel.And you know what makes everything even worse is that I like him like that and i dont want to.So now im even more confused.All I do and can do is pray but that doesnt seem to help.Does anybody have any advice on what to say to my friend or anything like that???? cause if u do i could definantly use it.:)
posted by: bronwynj (reply)
post date: 01.24.07 (4:44 pm)
If he asks for your help, then perhaps you can help him.
People generally don't appreciate unsolicited advice.
Concentrate on improving you, not him.
posted by: PastorDave (reply)
post date: 01.27.07 (4:14 pm)
A worthwhile relationship is a long-term matter. Same with change. Give it some time. Be consistent in being this person's friend, yet refuse to compromise matters you consider to be important. He will watch you, and with time hopefully he will move in a good direction with his life. I think we put too much weight upon specific actions, or even specific days. It takes time, and unfortunately you have to fall down a lot before you begin to walk with confidence. Boy, I've fallen down many, many times.
Sounds like you are a good friend. Keep it up.
posted by: HowToSaveALife15 (reply)
post date: 01.30.07 (9:18 am)
I wouldn't give up on him That's the last thing he needs. I would tell your parents and try to convice him and get him off of smoking. It's hard. I have friends like that too. But you have to believe in them that they're better than that and they can stop if you help them :)
posted by: Jim Ballroom (reply)
post date: 02.28.07 (2:27 am)
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